A relation is a bondage between two different metabolisms and two different genetics. It is the only link that brings two different mindsets to think alike or to act alike. Such a beauty at times is pressurized and ruled by the egos of persons. The whole reading process of this blog post will encompass through some mistakes we commit usually in relations which at times throws us in sorrows and bruises which doesn't have cure.
Why ego is a barrier to relation?
Ego is a factor that arises in the minds of a person when s/he is reluctant to accept the other person as s/he is. A matter of fact is left unidentified which is the prime rule that says the other person is entirely different from you in all the aspects of living. This differs you from others in the areas of characteristics which are related to her/his personality and the process of thinking.
When one forgets this fact and assumes that other person has to act according to her/him automatically there is a chance of conflict arise in that situation. Instead of this one has to accept the other person without any assumptions and with pure openness. Also, one has to understand the other person only by stepping into her/his shoes but not by standing in one's own boundaries.
I personally has to admit the fact that I was adamant towards my friends who are around me. I always preferred that they are like me. Life always teaches a lesson at the cost of some value. When I have started loosing some valuables I have started learning the mistakes but still continued to commit the same but recently learned the bitter truth that made me to slowly evolve and change my colors to add wings and start flying in the area of relations. I may now loose people but not at the cost of egoism as these are the words that am penning down as an undertaking to myself.
Ego and misunderstandings are the ones that will run the relation and what if one is adamant to accept your mistakes then there will be a blank in one's life. Bible says "Who rules by sword will end by sword." So, one should rule only by love and understanding when these two parameters are flooding in one;s heart there is no chance of egoism. If still it is arising that means he is still having some gap of adopting these rules. Unless one forgets him when you are with others you can't be with people.
At the same time one has to lead her/his life by following " నొప్పించక తానోప్పక" that means without hurting others and without hurting oneself.
